Better for myself.

Do you ever reach that point in your life where you just want to be alone? Detach yourself from everything and be truly alone. Leave the comforts of dependency and seek comfort in solidarity. Lately, I have realized I can’t do things alone. Not that there is anything wrong with that, it’s human nature to seek comfort in others. But lately I find myself detaching from everything I believed I enjoyed and trying to find how to do things on my own.

If I have to be really honest, I hate doing things alone. Hate it. This anxiety of going off into the world and doing things by myself frightens me. Which is the reason why I put my dependency on many people. None of it is wrong, its good to be surrounded by good people. Lately, I just need a moment. A moment to myself, to be alone, do things by myself and see what happens. You don’t know who you truly are until you are faced with hours of being alone. For the past couple of months I watched myself depend on the approval of people in many aspects of my life. Whether it be in my personal life or professional life, I needed this stamp of approval from everyone. I don’t know how I got this way. Have I always been this way? This desperation of a person that seeks the approval of everyone? I don’t know what it is, but it frightens me. This need to be someone to prove to everyone else that I can be something.

I don’t have anything to prove to anyone anymore. Even lately I don’t even know what I should be proving to myself. The reality of life is that I am growing up. I don’t want to be so public with everything I do in my life. I don’t want to show everyone what I am doing. I don’t want people to know where I am going. Life isn’t one big “who can do it big and better” competition. Somewhere in the past few years I lost sight of that. When did the little screens in front of us, become more important then human interaction? I hate it. It’s a popularity competition to seek the approval of the people in the screens we see before us. I am just tired of it. Why do I care what people think of me? Why do I care if you like me or you don’t?

Lately, I haven’t felt much like myself. I have felt withdrawn, sad, angry, anxious, all for feeling alone. I never used to be that way. I could spend hours doing things that I loved without the comfort of other people. I find myself getting angry at people I shouldn’t be angry at. I hated being alone because being alone meant finding out who I really was alone. When did I stop liking myself that being alone with myself is a burden? The more that I grow up the more I realize that everyone is on their own hustle. Everyone is growing up and doing things on their own and I feel stuck. You start taking things personally that maybe you’re the problem. Instead of talking to people, I kept things to myself and starting making myself upset. I hate being alone, I hate this person I am when I am alone, why am I this way? I guess in a way you really start to realize who you are when nobody is around. Some days I don’t really like myself as much as I should.

For the next couple of months, I want to be alone. Okay I know I can’t be alone completely for months but I can be alone for moments of months. Alone with my thoughts, alone with my dreams, and alone with my nightmares. I want to miss people. I want to fall in love with people, places, and things again. More importantly I want to prove to myself that I can actually do things alone without the help of others. I want to figure things out, make mistakes, and prove to myself that I can do things alone. I want to worry less about what the tiny screen says back at me and see the faces in front of me. Maybe I have officially gone mad, but sometimes the things that frighten you the most are the things you have to do for yourself. I haven’t done things on my own for a long time, it’s time that I started.

I am disconnecting myself from social media. If you need me, you know where to find me.

Let’s see how this experiment goes.

 

 

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One comment

  1. It looks like you wrote what’s on my mind right now. I get you, really. Make your life as interesting as possible despite being in solitude. Do everything for yourself and not everybody else. That’s how I got over it. Just my two centavos.

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