Wildflowers for Brunch

The Self-Care Tag.


I will be completely honest.

The past couple of weeks have not been the greatest. I can blame it on a million different ideas of things but truth is I’m just burnt out emotionally. Holidays always seem to put me in some weird rut, and it causes me to not be the nicest to myself. I over indulge in everything which in turn makes me feel terrible. It’s not that I am ungrateful, it’s that old demons die hard.

When the lovely and amazing Jessica (www.wildflowersforbrunch.com) tagged me on this post, I delayed this until I can fully commit myself to it. Thank you, Jessica, I needed to get out of my rut and feel better. ❤

What better than a new year to talk about Self-Care right?

3 cheers for Jessica!!! If you haven’t checked out her blog, I RECOMMEND IT!! It’s lovely! 🙂

And more Cheers to another year of new beginnings!!!!


  1. What piece of advice would you give a child about to grow up with the pressures of today’s media and its crushing expectations?

Think before you post. That one photo you think is so funny will come back to haunt you years from now. Not just photos. Words, sayings, anything. You have to be really cautious with what you put out there in the social media world. Always be aware that what you post is a representation of yourself. Also don’t be a bully. There are way too many assholes in this world, don’t be another one of them.

  1. What song puts you in a good mood every time?

“Wake up” by Arcade Fire.
“The First Single” by The Format
“Aside” By The Weakerthans

They literally get me stomping my feet and clapping my hands. Absolutely magical songs.

  1. What is the best advice someone gave you or you realized about life?

“Life is too short to worry about petty bullshit”. My nephew passed away from cancer, and as simple as that saying is and cliche as it sounds he lived and breathed that sentiment. Any time anyone would complain about something he would be quick to say that. He’s right. Life is too short to worry about petty bullshit. Life is meant to be lived and lived beautifully.

  1. Who makes you giggle like a giggle monster?

My friends. All of them. Just our normal day to day banter that is just unbelievably funny. I have some amazingly sarcastic friends. If you’re not sarcastic with good banter, I’m gonna have to doubt friendship.

  1. What is something about society that bugs you that you wish didn’t?

Here is the thing. I get the constant need for social media. I understand the public’s need to know everyone’s social standings and coming and goings. I just hate the loss of communication. It’s hard having conversation enough with people but worse the moment a person stops to send a text or take a phone call. My time is valuable and if you sit across from me and have this need to answer various texts, post on social media, send a snap, etc., it doesn’t make me feel welcome. I understand we are all guilty of it, I’m even guilty of it, but it makes me feel like I wasted my time coming to meet people. If you wanted to be on your phone the whole time, maybe I should have stayed home and texted you. It’s just rude.

  1. What is one of your favorite things to do on the weekends?

Friday nights are my nights. I love seeing movies, I love meeting friends for drinks. I don’t drink as much as I used to but I love a great beer. My club days are over. My Friday night parties are over. I honestly just love having a great meal, having a drink, and having some good conversation. Saturday is just catching up on errands. I’ll usually plan an outing to the city or local. Nothing to crazy. I usually say, I’ll do some “hood things” but thats basically an errand at Target or going to the grocery store. I know, I’m basically living the life. Sunday is the chill day. Its very rare if I do anything on Sunday. Sundays are made for cleanup, laundry, fixing up the gross mess of the week. I honestly just chill as much as I can.

Living the rockstar life. I KNOW

  1. What is something you’re really proud of that you’ve done?

Being honest and talking about my feelings. I started this blog about a year ago as an outlet to discuss my problems with debt and money, and it opened up the flood gates of everything. I didn’t realize how much of everything I really kept inside. People think because you keep quiet that nothing is wrong. Truth was I was hurting for a long time that I had no way to express myself. This became my outlet to let everything go.

  1. What is one of your favorite memories with a friend?

I have too many. Honestly, I can’t single any out. I’ve done a lot of crazy things in my lifetime with friends that would make the Hangover look like Sesame Street. However some of my greatest memories I have with my friends are usually the coming home from the crazy adventures and sitting in silence. Maybe it’s the reflection of all the crazy antics we have done and knowing that no matter what, we have these great memories.

  1. What advice would you give to someone who needs a boost in confidence?

Listen to your favorite song. Scream it as loud as you can. Then kick some ass (not literal ass, YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN).

  1. Lastly, how do you plan on investing in self-love?

Treating myself better. I’ve spent the last couple of years being miserable. Finally just want to get to the point of being better to myself. Thinking positively. Eating better and just over all feeling better.

I tag the following:

Katzi – She Loves You and So Do I – shelovesyoublog.blogspot.com

Abigail – Hey Darling Love – http://www.heydarlinglove.com

Crystal – Imakesht – http://www.Imakesht.wordpress.com

Liebster Award.


Imagine my surprise when the lovely Jessica Lynn of Wildflowers for Brunch nominated me for a Liebster Award. Not only am I totally stoked and extremely honored, it made me feel downright special. I absolutely love reading Jessica’s twitter (we are totally twitter friends!) and her blog is equally amazing. If you don’t already follow her I highly suggest a follow to her blog/twitter!!!

The Liebster Award is a great way discover and give recognition to new blogs!

Here’s the deal, once nominated you must:

  • Write 11 facts about yourself
  • Nominate 5-11 bloggers for the Award
  • Answer 11 questions provided by the presenter, then write 11 questions for your nominees


11 Random Facts about Me:

1. My name is Martha Elizabeth. However I do not like my first name. Therefore I usually go by my middle name or my family name “Ellie”.  My oldest friends still call me by my first name but I cringe every time I hear that name.

2.  I drink more iced tea than humanly possible.

3.  My birthday is on Halloween. However I never celebrate Halloween. I’ve always celebrated my birthday first then Halloween second.

4. Baseball is one of my favorite sports. My favorite team is the Oakland Athletics. Yes, I do have baseball superstitions. Yes, they are real.

5. I have a weird connection with the number “5”. Its a number that always pops up randomly. Either my change will be in all 5’s or I’ll be at register 5, or just weird little occurrences with the number.

6. Being of Mexican descent, I am very picky about Mexican food.  I can’t eat just any where and anyone’s food.

7.  I have 5 tattoos. For personal reasons only 2 are visible and 3 are hidden.

8. I believe that if you do not like 90’s hip-hop & r&b, we cannot be friends.

9. I am a magazine hoarder. TRUST when I say, it’s bad

10.  Breakfast food is the best food. Especially waffles and pancakes. Yeah, I said it.

11.  I have a huge fear of being abandoned. Which is why I don’t camp or do anything with the outdoors. I’ve watched too many of those wilderness survival shows and that will not be happening to me!


Jessica’s Questions:

  1. If you were a tea, what flavor would you be? Is it wrong that I’ve actually thought of this? I would be Ginger Peach and I would be Iced. If you haven’t tried it before, it’s magical.
  2. What is the first song you ever fell in love with? “If I fell” by the Beatles. It brings back so many childhood memories.
  3. What book most accurately expresses your viewpoint on life? Mindy Kaling’s “Is everyone hanging out without me”.  It was like everything I was thinking put into print. Word for word.
  4. In one word, describe how 2014 is going so far. Relaxed. Its less chaotic, no drama, less bullshit, just spiritually in a better place.
  5. What is your favorite perfume scent? Marc Jacobs “Cotton”. I try not to use it often but honestly it’s one of the most cleanest and happiest scents
  6. Invent your ideal milkshake. What’s in it? Chocolate and peanut butter. Two of the best combinations ever.
  7. Are you a fox or a hedgehog? SONIC THE HEDGEHOG
  8. Which FRIENDS character are you? I used to believe Rachel until I started a complete re-watch of the series. Now I just think I’m the female Chandler.
  9. Describe your ideal lazy day.  Without a doubt have to be large consumptions of food, coffee, tea. Either reading a great book or watching all of my great films. That’s as lazy as I get.
  10. You get to re-invent the rainbow with seven colors of your choosing. What are they? it would definitely be just variations of the color green. Just a rainbow of ombre greens!!!
  11. What is your favorite Wes Anderson movie?  The Royal Tenenbaums. For many multiple reasons but mainly because of Margot Tenenbaum.


Now that I have answered, I would like to nominate the following:

Lily – I Want to be the Girl with the Most Cake

Hilda – 30 Into the Three-Oh

Nina – The European Redhead

Katzi – She Loves You and So do I

Crystal – Imakesht


These are my questions:


1. What is the last purchase you made?

2. What is your favorite article of clothing?

3. Is there anything you have left to accomplish before 2014 is over?

4. What is your current favorite album at the moment?

5. What is the one song that always reminds you that everything is going to be okay?

6. What and where is your favorite hometown hangout?

7. If you could give one piece of advice to people, what would it be?

8. Favorite quote that motivates you:

9. Who would you cast to play you in the movie of your life?

10. What is your guilty pleasure snack?

11. What is your favorite TV sitcom of the 90’s?


Thank you, thank you, thank you to the lovely Jessica! Do yourself a favor and head on over to her blog!!! http://www.wildflowersforbrunch.com.

To my favorite lovely people that I have nominated, have fun! Don’t forget to send me the link of your finished product 🙂